I read a quote recently that I thought I would share. The quote is by L.R. Knost. She is the founder and director of the children's rights advocacy and family consulting group, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources, and Editor of Holistic Parenting Magazine.
The Quote goes like this "Life is amazing. And then it's awful. And then it's amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful it's ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That's just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it's breathtakingly beautiful."
That quote stayed with me. It certainly spoke to some deep part of my soul. I think we forget, especially when lost in throes of grief and while we are inside the "awful", just how wonderfully amazing is our gift of life, our gift of loved ones, friends. So no matter how long we had them in our lives we were blessed with their presence. The miracle is that they could have been born anytime in history but is we who were bless with their presence.
Sunday, March 10, 2019
When I look back at my daughter's death it feels like it was just yesterday; but, in reality it has been many years now. I will never forget how, when my daughter died, a very good friend called me and she said, "How do you want to remember her? What are you going to do for her?" Those two questions stopped me in my tracks because I was so wrapped up in my grief that I hadn't even given a thought to how I wanted to say thank you for being the precious daughter you were or how to say goodbye to her physical presence and to greet her soul, her spiritual presence.
I am so thankful for my friend because there was no family that could offer me that kind of support. Those words meant so much to me that I have always wanted to make sure no one else felt alone going through this process. Since you have found yourself here in this place, know that you are not alone. Remember we all grieve differently, we all have different beliefs, different ideas about how we want to honor and to remember our deceased loved one. I want you to know there are many ways to say goodbye, not just one way. And, there is no right or wrong way, only your way.
For me it is an honor and privilege to support families as they prepare to say goodbye to a loved one.
So, tell me, how do you want to remember your loved one? How do you want to say goodbye?
Posted by Brenda at March 10, 2019